The new age dysfunction of always being kind

THE NEW AGE DYSFUNCTION OF ALWAYS BEING KIND!

I’ve always stayed positive and was kind!

What a crock of shit!

I’ve been down that long road of Science of mind, LOA. I studied hard and took a class to be certified.

I eventually found a place of “what the hell”? I questioned it. I explored other methods and theories.

I found evidence that indeed it is depressing to the human brain to constantly “be positive”. I researched and found that people are more happy, long term when they have a mixture of both positive and negative.

You cannot bash “POSITIVE” INTO YOUR BRAIN! Affirmations felt to me like being hit in the head…. and doing it to myself.

I finally found TheWork.org

and I finally found a way to really be in the reality of life, judgments happen, negative thoughts happen, unkindness happens….. etc.

I learned to question my thinking, my judgments. I also learned that it is utter fucking bullshit to be positive all the time.

One thing I’m positive about is that I will be HUMAN!

I’LL EXPERIENCE THE GOOD, THE BAD, THE UGLY, THE SAD, THE POSITIVE AND THE NEGATIVE!!!

I’m almost always positive in the fact that I trust myself to make lemonade out of lemons. I’m a go-getter. I’m the one that if I get punched down, I’ll get back up. Does that mean there is a place where everyone says the right thing all the time, in the right tone? NO, NO, NO!!!

If they do, there is most likely part of them that is being suppressed or denied.

I DO NOT STRIVE TO BE POLLYANNA AND POSITIVE AND KIND (WHATEVER THAT IS) ALL THE TIME!

THAT IS INHUMAN……… IT IS!

I’ve learned a lot on this journey as me ( Lisa) and I have a wisdom that only comes from experience.

When someone throws at me that I’m unkind….. ( of course I am, when I am) ….. and that is relative!

There is one thing I’ve learned in this legal issue is: Men really think ( because I date men not women) they are being “kind” when they cross boundaries and try to “make you believe” them by constantly contacting you after a break-up. Regardless of how you feel. Regardless of if it is really “kind”.

Is that actually kind? Well, if you are insecure. Oblivious to what covert tactics are used in domestic violence, when you support men that claim to be the one that is the hurt, and when you hold stories of eons past conditioning that that type behavior from a man is “just what men do”.

Secure women, aware women, boundaried women do not feel it is KIND to constantly have contact from a man that the relationship has ended. We FEEL the threat there. The threat of someone that cannot respect boundaries. The threat that they can’t move on, deal with their emotions on their own etc.

SO TO SAY YOU ARE OR WERE KIND EVEN IN THE HELL OF LIFE. I DO NOT BELIEVE IT! At least to the point of having it all to deal with on your own with little support.

That is like a parent saying they never get crass with their child. WELL MAYBE PRINCESS OF WHALES THAT HAS NANNIES ALL THE TIME TO HELP…

Parents that have little to no help and are stressed out, YES THEY DO!! We do! The best of us do!

To expect perfect is the new highly toxic and dysfunctional mentality of the WOO-WOO era.

WE ARE NOT ROBOTS! We just think we are.

I know from experience that, even the most evolved beings on this planet are not KIND all the time!

Sometimes being kind means yes to you and no to someone else. But in society we only judge people for how they are on the “outside”….. its the I have power over what people think, by showing how “kind” I am in the public or around people I want to believe I am. That doesn’t mean it is the truth!

❤ Ponder it!

I work with Men and Women to Awaken the Conscious part of themselves that knows how to love deeply.

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