Exactly! They do feel "familiar" as if you've known them your whole life.... it isn't because it's your soulmate for life. Absolutely!
But there is another side to hope as it can blind us to reality and cause us to hold on to people or situations that are detrimental to our future.
I can't say enough good things about this article. I know I have had to work harder. There is so much that goes into privilege and success and it is overlooked. I agree. Often people struggle with several different factors that can make it near impossible. Our brains are wired in our childhood and if you grew up affluent and privileged you will have that conditioning. If you had the opposite, it will be your conditioning you are up against also. Thanks so much for this article. It was nice to feel someone else understands this.
…ssed it completely because I wasn’t yet acquainted with words like cis-gendered or heteronormative. I wouldn’t have thought much about how race, gender, or ability influenced success. It wouldn’t have occurred to me that other people might have to work so much harder to have even a fraction of the success of others.
Thank you for being so open about this. Often, therapists cannot allow this to show.
It’s a love that comes from deep understanding and respect. It’s a love that comes from raw honesty and humility.
Laura Silverstein, LCSW
YES! I have too. Still with only a 16 yr old at home now. I started locking the bathroom door.
Do you like privacy in the bathroom? If so, having children is not for you. I’ve nursed a baby while sitting on the toilet. Bathroom etiquette is not their thing. As they get older, children tend to get the memo, but initia…
Gloria Miles, MBA
That isn’t my choice — it’s his. He either wants to do it or he doesn’t.
But men have naturally come to me to talk about what they are feeling. It’s not something I’ve sought out. It just happens. In the past three decades as a coach and counselor, I’ve spoken to hundreds of men, and one common response is “I feel at ease talking to you.”
They intuitively know I have no agenda, and I’ve learned a great deal from these men sharing with me.
Many of them have shared they feel deeply, but that the women in their…
Have you ever wondered why a woman you are dating seems to start to either get clingy suddenly or pull away and lose interest? As a dating and relationship coach, I’ve seen this play out many times. I’ve experienced it when dating myself. “What happened? Things were going fine.” It baffles men.
It’s a similar story I’ve heard many times in my years of talking to men. Jason meets Julie. The connection is great. Jason is into Julie and over the span of a couple of months, they are seeing each other three times a week, consistently. Then, all of…
Exactly! Thank you for this article! <3
…ommon reaction to trauma. Our brains process certain events as “danger,” regardless of the reality. When we react to a situation intensely what can develop afterward is feeling that we are not a strong person and/or that something is inherently flawed with us. Made worse by toxic positivity tropes reinforced in society.
I so relate! <3
In the foggy aftermath of my son’s untimely death, I sought out trauma-informed therapy. I learned that much of what I thought was my personality was largely a sum of trauma responses instaed. That knowledge spun me into a complete identity crisis and I found myself unpacking decades' worth of neatly hidden traumatic incidences.
If he says he’s going to do it, he’ll do it, eventually!
Men don’t need reminders, that’s nagging. Some men think women shouldn’t remind them of the honey-do list they agreed to. If a man tells you he’s going to do it, he’s going to do it. I recently wrote a short article on this subject and I was amazed at the response from men. Women I have spoken to over the years say that men will say they will do something for them and then drag it out and not do it. Handyman businesses make a good living off…