I'm working on this as it is a journey. I'm finding that finding those subconcious parts of me ( my inner family) that actually does derive satisfaction from it - is something that isn't as easy as I thought. I'm finding though that he journey to understanding these parts and embracing them as they have worked so hard trying to do what they thought was best - has been very fulfilling. We can only do what we were conditioned to do - though not very supportive - it still was what that part of us knew to do. I agree, we have to lover our messy selves. Great article! Thank you!
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