“You’re Addicted To Spending Time With Them”

One way to notice, the article said, is if you are addicted to spending time with them. If you are not experiencing the symptoms of wanting to spend all waking hours with them to the point where when you leave, you can’t wait until your next date. Where time drags on so much that you have to call them or talk to them.

”If not, you’re in trouble.” It says.

”True love is very much like forming a strong addiction.”

Stating that science has proven that the chemicals we experience in our brains when finding true love equate to that of cocaine.

I had to stop and shake my head. …

How does our sense of smell come into play when dating? Interestingly enough, they have done research on scent and selection. What is the science behind it? Does our sense of smell choose our partners? It seems it plays a part in selection.

An experiment done in 1995 regarding “sweat and body odor” to see if the Olfactory senses were part of the attraction between two people desiring a romantic connection. The T-shirt experiment had 49 women and 44 men. The men wore the T-shirt for nights and returned them. …

Jealousy and micro-cheating most of us know are taboo subjects to discuss. It’s hip to be friends with your exes or opposite gender acquaintances. Decades of it being socially acceptable. I mean, we are in the age of equality in the 21st century where many kinds of love and commitment exist. Where connections and social media bring us together. Out with the old traditions and in with the new “emotionally evolved” ways of dating and relating. Everyone knows this.

Is there a basis for this new age mentality of being friends with exes or opposite gender acquaintances as evolved? …

Dating and relationship energy roles can be a heated topic. I don’t write about it much. I noticed through conversation recently that maybe I should. It’s not really something many people understand, yet many people chose their energy role subconsciously. They just do what they learned to do by society. Not really consciously looking at it.

Androgynous energy role is a dating and relationships where there is no defined energy role. Their defined energy role is both energies in each partner moving back and forth more frequently.

It’s a bit complicated to explain. It’s more like there is not really a pursuer and not really a pursued. It happens on both sides. One might ask one out and then next time the other one might initiate and take the other out. …

INTEGRATION FROM STALKING — BECOMING WHOLE AGAIN!

It’s been an interesting road to recovery from stalking. I have lots to say and write about it. I’ve learned a great deal. It’s been an interesting journey! A myriad of emotions and realizations.

I’ve had to self-advocate, have stronger boundaries, clearer communications, and have become one badass woman. A force to reckon with. I’ve become very passionate about education in the court systems and civil rights. I am more outspoken now.

I’ve also cut people out that have no awareness about what an actual victim is. They live in a world I do not care to be part of. …

Taking responsibility for your share doesn’t mean it’s your fault. It doesn’t always fix things. It just means there are things you could do differently.

I’ve had so much experience with this accountability issue. Many years of lessons. I used to do it so eagerly as I had this idea that I could change and that would make everything ok. I had no control over what others did, but if I could change, then everything else would change. Change in the way of repairing the relationship.

Wait, it does! Yes, it does, but not always the way we want it to. I eventually learned the hard way that just because I was taking responsibility for my share and all the responsibility set me up for bigger messes. Like even more toxic relationships. It set me up for being taken for granted big time. They didn’t have to do their inner work or take responsibility for their share. …

If We Live By People’s Compliments We Will Die By Their Criticism.

Living with the fear of judgment

“Speak YOUR truth, not the person whose payroll you’re on” Aimee Bateman says. YOUR TRUTH! When we are saying something we are truly passionate about and we are doing it in a way that we want to do it. “THE NEED TO BE HEARD IS SO MUCH GREATER THAN THE FEAR OF BEING JUDGED!” Absolutely F’ing True! I loved her video!

Succulence is what women give

I say this from the perspective of the Masculine/Feminine energy that I work with. The energies as Dr. Pat Allen calls the Anima and the Animus. This can also not apply or be reversed. It really depends on who you are in regards to gender energies.

I notice this often as I hear men talk about women. The frustrations they have and how, still, as a whole, we are uneducated on what each gender energy brings to the table. We keep a running tab.

I watch a lot of Asian series and I see it more so in their romantic shows. It’s easier to see the responses that happen with men in those soapy romantic shows than it usually is in American media. However, it isn’t a cultural thing. Men just don’t show the same responses as women do, typically. …