I work with Men and Women to Awaken the Conscious part of themselves that knows how to love deeply.

If he says he’s going to do it, he’ll do it, eventually!

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Men don’t need reminders, that’s nagging. Some men think women shouldn’t remind them of the honey-do list they agreed to. If a man tells you he’s going to do it, he’s going to do it. I recently wrote a short article on this subject and I was amazed at the response from men. Women I have spoken to over the years say that men will say they will do something for them and then drag it out and not do it. Handyman businesses make a good living off…


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In my early 20s, I just wasn’t that interested in sex.

I had been known to fake an orgasm or two when I just wanted it to be over quickly. Sometimes it was to give him feedback so that he wouldn’t internalize it and make it about him.

I was also uneducated about sex then. There were no discussions going on about sex in my marriage and I wasn’t able to be so vulnerable at that time in my life.

Recently, I was involved in a group discussion about faking orgasms. Naturally, there were lots of opinions about why people do it, however, it seemed as though they were mostly negative…


I read an article today about how to know if you are with your soulmate. The article was giving signs to look for to know if you are with your soulmate.

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“You’re Addicted To Spending Time With Them”

One way to notice, the article said, is if you are addicted to spending time with them. If you are not experiencing the symptoms of wanting to spend all waking hours with them to the point where when you leave, you can’t wait until your next date. Where time drags on so much that you have to call them or talk to them.

”If not, you’re in trouble.” It says.

”True love is very much like forming a strong addiction.”

Stating that science has proven that the chemicals we experience in our brains when finding true love equate to that of cocaine.

I had to stop and shake my head. …


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How does our sense of smell come into play when dating? Interestingly enough, they have done research on scent and selection. What is the science behind it? Does our sense of smell choose our partners? It seems it plays a part in selection.

An experiment done in 1995 regarding “sweat and body odor” to see if the Olfactory senses were part of the attraction between two people desiring a romantic connection. The T-shirt experiment had 49 women and 44 men. The men wore the T-shirt for nights and returned them. …


Helena Lopes — Unsplash
Helena Lopes — Unsplash

Jealousy and micro-cheating most of us know are taboo subjects to discuss. It’s hip to be friends with your exes or opposite gender acquaintances. Decades of it being socially acceptable. I mean, we are in the age of equality in the 21st century where many kinds of love and commitment exist. Where connections and social media bring us together. Out with the old traditions and in with the new “emotionally evolved” ways of dating and relating. Everyone knows this.

Is there a basis for this new age mentality of being friends with exes or opposite gender acquaintances as evolved? …


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Dating and relationship energy roles can be a heated topic. I don’t write about it much. I noticed through conversation recently that maybe I should. It’s not really something many people understand, yet many people chose their energy role subconsciously. They just do what they learned to do by society. Not really consciously looking at it.

Androgynous energy role is a dating and relationships where there is no defined energy role. Their defined energy role is both energies in each partner moving back and forth more frequently.

It’s a bit complicated to explain. It’s more like there is not really…


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INTEGRATION FROM STALKING — BECOMING WHOLE AGAIN!

It’s been an interesting road to recovery from stalking. I have lots to say and write about it. I’ve learned a great deal. It’s been an interesting journey! A myriad of emotions and realizations.

I’ve had to self-advocate, have stronger boundaries, clearer communications, and have become one badass woman. A force to reckon with. I’ve become very passionate about education in the court systems and civil rights. I am more outspoken now.

I’ve also cut people out that have no awareness about what an actual victim is. They live in a world I…


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Taking responsibility for your share doesn’t mean it’s your fault. It doesn’t always fix things. It just means there are things you could do differently.

I’ve had so much experience with this accountability issue. Many years of lessons. I used to do it so eagerly as I had this idea that I could change and that would make everything ok. I had no control over what others did, but if I could change, then everything else would change. Change in the way of repairing the relationship.

Wait, it does! Yes, it does, but not always the way we want it…


If We Live By People’s Compliments We Will Die By Their Criticism.

Living with the fear of judgment

Fear of Judgment
Fear of Judgment

“Speak YOUR truth, not the person whose payroll you’re on” Aimee Bateman says. YOUR TRUTH! When we are saying something we are truly passionate about and we are doing it in a way that we want to do it. “THE NEED TO BE HEARD IS SO MUCH GREATER THAN THE FEAR OF BEING JUDGED!” Absolutely F’ing True! I loved her video!


Succulence is what women give

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I say this from the perspective of the Masculine/Feminine energy that I work with. The energies as Dr. Pat Allen calls the Anima and the Animus. This can also not apply or be reversed. It really depends on who you are in regards to gender energies.

I notice this often as I hear men talk about women. The frustrations they have and how, still, as a whole, we are uneducated on what each gender energy brings to the table. We keep a running tab.

I watch a lot of Asian series and I see it…

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